Here’s the story of three random individuals that we’ll call Sam, Kate, and Blake. Sam called Kate, one evening. She could sense the overwhelming frustration in his voice. Kate was in a nursing home, once again. Sam began the conversation with “Well, I gave Blake the update on how you’re doing. She told me that she didn’t want to hear about it and not to tell her anything more about what is happening with you. Kate wasn’t exactly surprised. Her relationship with Blake had been rocky territory since day one. Sam’s emotions were just as fragile, at this point.
Sam and Kate entered into a relationship several years before, but at this time in their lives Kate was questioning her own sanity. There were days when she would cry out to God to take her. When the conversation was over with Sam, she rang for the nurses aide and asked for some help in at least getting her teeth brushed for the evening. An overwhelming depression was setting in and Kate didn’t have the energy to do much more than this.
Kate prayed to a dear friend who had passed earlier that year. “Richard, I’m on my way.” The intervention that she so desperately needed came when she felt his presence throughout her entire body. He got right to the point. “We’re not ready for you. You have work to be done.” Kate wasn’t quite sure what this meant, but she knew that she had her work cut out for her.
A year after these events, Blake came to Kate with a health issue that she had been dealing with. She had no idea where else to turn. Kate’s direction was her best case scenario. Blake was in distress as she was avoiding her father concerning the issue.
As far as going to her mother about this, it was another story for another day. She needed help, NOW….
Kate’s head began to pivot as she began to listen to what Blake was saying. The whole dilemma could have actually been avoided if Kate had just taken the cotton out of her ears and put it in her mouth. She began to yell at Blake with a, “How dare you come to me with this! Where were you when I needed you?” Blake began to cry and say, “I just didn’t know what to do or say.” These words struck Kate right in the heart. She put her arms around Blake and said, “I’m sorry. I don’t think that I handled this very well, either.” There is still a lot of healing to be done, but Kate accepts her part in situations that used to leave her baffled. It may take some time, but she is getting better at this. Families, sometimes become fractured, but we can heal and as the old saying goes –
Time Takes Time….
The two women were able to have a conversation on that day and Kate had one of the best nights of sleep that she’d had in a long time.
Until Next Week , K xo